I was in my house in Puebla, and we were having a grill because it was my birthday. I spoke with uncle Pedro and he said he hadn't had sex in 15 years, and he said so with acceptance. Cousin Pedro then said he hadn't had a girlfriend in 5 years, whining. I felt admiration for my uncle and disgust for my cousin. I thought: it is not the things you live, but how you live them.